What Men Need To Live A Happy Life
Introduction
In 1938 Harvard University began following 268 male undergraduate students and kicked off the longest-running longitudinal studies of human development in history. The study’s goal was to determine as best as possible what factors contribute most strongly to a happy life and human flourishing.
This is particularly interesting as Longevity science is now beginning to offer the real possibility of living a much longer healthier life
In this article I have summarised the key findings and linked to original article in feelguide.com
The more recent findings following the men into their 90’s, are especially interesting and valuable
Can you guess what was the single strongest cause of divorce between the men and their wives?
Read on to find out.
Synopsis of study findings
George Vaillant, who directed the study for more than three decades, published the study’s findings in the book Triumphs of Experience (Amazon) in 2012.
The following is extracted from book’s synopsis:
“At a time when many people around the world are living into their tenth decade, the longest longitudinal study of human development ever undertaken offers some welcome news for the new old age: our lives continue to evolve in our later years, and often become more fulfilling than before.
George Vaillant follows the men into their nineties, documenting for the first time what it is like to flourish far beyond conventional retirement.
Reporting on all aspects of male life, including relationships, politics and religion, coping strategies, and alcohol use
‘Triumphs of Experience’ shares several surprising findings. For example, the people who do well in old age did not necessarily do so well in midlife, and vice versa.
While the study confirms that recovery from a lousy childhood is possible, memories of a happy childhood are a lifelong source of strength.
Marriages bring much more contentment after age 70, and physical aging after 80 is determined less by heredity than by habits formed prior to age 50.
The credit for growing old with grace and vitality, it seems, goes more to ourselves than to our stellar genetic makeup.”
Other Key Findings in over 50’s
The study has many interesting and valuable findings, but the most significant finding of all is that alcoholism is the single strongest cause of divorce between the Grant Study men and their wives.
Alcoholism was also found to be strongly coupled with neurosis and depression.
Together with cigarette smoking, alcoholism proves to be the #1 greatest cause of morbidity and death. And above a certain level, intelligence doesn’t prevent the damage.
With regards to income, there was no noticeable difference in maximum income earned by men with IQs in the 110-115 range vs. men with IQs above 150.
With regards to sex lives, one of the most fascinating discoveries is that aging liberals have way more sex.
Political ideology had no bearing on overall life satisfaction, but the most conservative men on average shut down their sex lives around age 68, while the most liberal men had healthy sex lives well into their 80s.
Vaillant writes, “I have consulted urologists about this, they have no idea why it might be so.”
In Triumphs of Experience, Vaillant frequently refers to refers to the study’s discovery that the powerful correlation between the warmth of your relationships and your health and happiness in your later years.
Vallant notes that the 58 men who scored highest on the measurements of “warm relationships” (WR) earned an average of $141,000 a year more during their peak salaries (between ages 55-60) than the 31 men who scored the lowest in WR.
The high WR scorers were also 3-times more likely to have professional success worthy of inclusion in Who’s Who.
One of the more intriguing discoveries of the Grant Study was how significant men’s relationships with their mothers are in determining their well-being in life.
“Men who had ‘warm’ childhood relationships with their mothers took home $87,000 more per year than men whose mothers were uncaring.
Men who had poor childhood relationships with their mothers were much more likely to develop dementia when old.
Late in their professional lives, the men’s boyhood relationships with their mothers — but not their fathers — were associated with effectiveness at work.
On the other hand, warm childhood relations with fathers correlated with lower rates of adult anxiety, greater enjoyment on vacations, and increased ‘life satisfaction’ at age 75 — whereas the warmth of childhood relationships with mothers had no significant bearing on life satisfaction at 75.”
You can read the original article from feelguide.com here
George Vaillant, who directed the study for more than three decades, published the study’s findings in the book:
Triumphs of Experience (Amazon)